Sunday, January 31, 2010

I need some perspective . . .or something.

First off, I have to say that NOTHING I am about to say applies to Daisy . ..she will understand why soon.

Part I:

Ok, so DP and I are not very social people. We decided a while ago that we wanted to have a birthday party for our house--since it was going to be 100 years old this year.  What a better excuse to have a party, right? We really got into it, and got lots of cool facts, ads, articles, music from 1910.  It was awesome to do the research and check all that stuff out. We had a few other fun things going on like having people help us choose our paint color for the kitchen--they voted on 1 of 4 colors. We had also had gotten a take home paint your own pottery kit and bought tiles of different sizes so folks could make a tile commemorating the event. We aren't sure what we will do with them right now, but we will either make a table or frame them.

Part II:
I eat lunch with the same group of girls. There are 5 of us . . .4 of which I knew before when I worked there, so I have known them for years. I had been talking about the party for over a month now and everyone was very excited to come and we all talked about how much fun it would be. We seems to be a very tight group of women. Blah blah blah.  We also celebrate birthday's with this group of ladies--usually by having a special lunch and goofy gifts. We have celebrated all birthday's this year . . .except mine. Nothing from no one . . .it kinda made me sad. Now I know I have a holiday birthday, but still. Nothing . . .

Part III:
Party day comes around, and mother nature decides she wants to crash the party. We ended up with maybe an inch of snow, if that.  L had told me earlier in the week that if it snowed she would NOT be coming. She texted before the party to say she wasn't coming. T called to say she'd gotten mostly to our house but then she couldn't get through the roads and turned around (less than like a mile form our house). H never called or texted to say anything. S never called or texted or anything. S has also made plans to come to our house three other times and hasn't called or canceled.

Part IV:
We had a GREAT time with the folks that did come. We had about 25 people come and it was great to see some friends I hadn't seen in a while, and some that I see more often. The house was filled with much love, laughter, fun, food, and jello shots. I am so pleased with how it all turned out, and the tiles look amazing!

Part V:
I am finding myself really angry at my friends (the ones from work). I guess I am thinking that if they didn't want to come, or weren't going to come, then they shouldn't have made such a big deal ABOUT coming. They might have said, well, we aren't sure if we are going to make it, blah blah blah.  I guess I just feel that typically I am very forgiving, and usually would just let it roll off my back . . but not acknowledging my birthday . . .not coming to a party . . .it just kind of stings a bit. My first reaction to DP was that I just wasn't going to talk to them tomorrow--which I know is a very childlike reaction.  But I feel like I do need some space from them.

It is good timing anyways as I have started a new role at work as the admissions coordinator for the children's program and am busy--VERY busy . . .that would be a good excuse to separate a bit from them.  I know there were other factors, and things beyond my control, and after all, i KNOW it isn't always about me . . .but the hurt is there none the less. I did miss Daisy, and knew she was coming from MUCH further than other folks and the weather was bad there--hopefully we will see each other again soon!

Not sure what I am looking for . . .just needed to vent.  Thanks for reading . . .


Lynilu said...

Oh, Beans, I hear that, loud and clear. I've always been very social and thought nothing about driving a distance for a party or a lunch. I often drove an hour or more for lunch with friends, and usually, it was reciprocated. But now I find that some people who live 10-15 miles from me don't just come visit because I "live SO far away." I must admit, they come for a party (I can't say about a bad weather factor), but they don't just drop in. I go to see them, and I don't get why the road seems to be longer heading my way. I get it. And I'm sorry that your friends are butts. Some of mine are, too.

Wanna get together and eat worms?

Cheryl said...

First of all, I think your idea for the party was very cool and creative. What a great idea, and I'm glad that the 25 people who did come, had fun and there was a lot of laughter.

Second, I'm not very social, so I feel your sting, and much like like, my mode would be not to talk to them. I know it is not the most mature thing, but that is what I tend to do, although I have been trying so hard not to do it. Anyway, I think a bit of distance from them might be a good thing, because when it comes down to it, it was hurtful.

I'm sorry that happened to you, you didn't deserve it. Their loss....focus on all the wonderful people who did come and all the fun that was had.


Caroline said...

I also love the idea of having a birthday party for your house. How very cool.

I totally understand about the whole friends thing. I have lived in my new house and new town for almost a year and not one of my friends from KC has come to visit me. This makes me very sad. One even told me "Why would would I want to come to Marysville?" That really hurt because I thought we were friends and if they had moved away I would come visit them. Since I have been gone only one of my friends has sent me a birthday/holiday card even though I have sent them cards for the holidays and birthdays. So, I know how you feel. Sometimes it just sucks.

Daisy said...

I was so excited to go to your party and so sad that it turned out I wasn't able to. I thought the whole idea of celebrating your house's birthday was so clever. I'm still ticked off with Mother Nature.

I would be flustered with your "friends" too. And my first instinct would be to not talk to them either. I seriously don't think I would acknowledge or go out for birthdays anymore.

Something very similiar happened to a girl I work with. Her birthday is New Years Eve. She had a Birthday party/New Years Eve party. 20 or so people from work said they'd be there. She had food enough for the 20 and more. Guess how many people went? A total of 5 (Man and I were 2 of the 5). I felt very sorry for her.

CailinMarie said...

awe Beans - I'm catching up here and this is late and way after the fact but still - that stinks. I'm with Cheryl, I'm glad you had such a cool party for your house, I think that is awesome! And your turn out sounds good. But I'm sorry the group from work were duds. Bah!